tingel: (Flocke)
AAAAaaand she arrived! This night at about 4 am.

My niece is fine and so is sis!!!
Last post was a false alarm. We've been waiting these past two weeks. Now the lady decided it was time to come. :-) And then, apparently, it all had to go very fast. Sis just made it to the hospital and spent about 20 minutes in the delivery ward.

The resulting technical data (as my dad called it):
58 cm - 4150 g
10 fingers and 10 toes attached. So everything is good!

:happy dance:

Eeeeeh

Oct. 31st, 2011 02:03 pm
tingel: ((default))
Little sis has gone into labor! My niece will arrive today or tomorrow!
And sis is cool as whatever about it. She's at home waiting for the contractions to get stronger before going to hospital. She even took the time time to proofread a paper I was preparing for a test next week... :amazed:
Hope the little one will come today. As sis said, being born on 31 October is great. For the rest of her life everyone's gonna be in party mood on her birthday and will have the next day off so they really can party! :)
I'm so happy! My sis is happy, her hubby is happy, my mom is happy, everyone is happy and excited. This kid will be greeted by smiles!
tingel: (sparkling eyes)
I'm fighting not to cry here.
My sister called, basically to ask how the day was and if I liked her birthday present (which I really did). Then she asked me if I would be my niece's godmother. (My niece will be born around the beginning of November). She knows I'm an atheist. I don't make a fuss about it but neither do I hide it. When she asked me to become my nephew's godmother two years ago I declined saying that I was an atheist and that it went against my convictions. And I didn't hold my nephew during baptism or made any vows to educate him in Christianity. My sister seems to have forgotten that and still considers me his godmother, meaning I would step in if anything should ever happen to her and her husband. In my eyes that's something completely different. If something were to happen I don't need a religious ceremony to take care of my family. They - she, her husband and the kid(s) - are my family! And also, that's not what that ceremony is about. The god-parenting part is about promising to raise the child in the ways of Christianity and nothing else.
When my sister asked me again today, I declined again. We exchanged some words. She really considers me my nephew's godmother and can't understand why I'm "suddenly" acting differently. I pointed out that I'm doing exactly the same as before. She feels that in refusing to be a godmother I'm rejecting her and her family. That's when she snapped that fine, she would ask someone else and she wouldn't beg. I said she misunderstood. I love her and the kid(s) and I would still take care of them if something happened. We stopped then, before it devolved into a screaming match and promised to talk again later this week.
I'm really upset about it. Even more than I can really understand. I think it's because my sister is a very important person in my life. Maybe even more important than I realize at times. Now she's upset with me, so I am upset, too. But a big part is probably also this: for her my being a godmother is a proof of my love for her and her children. It's as if the only reason I would refuse to do my part is that I don't love them or want to take responsibility. And in that she marginalizes my own convictions. She ignores the fact that being an atheist is as much part of my identity as being Christian is part of hers. And that hurts. It hurts deeper than I would have expected.
There's a bit more still. I did attend my nephew's baptism. And there was this nice, no-nonsense, down-to-earth minister who explained how wonderful it was to introduce new members to the church (okay) and how important it is to actively lead the children in their faith (also okay from a church point of view). Then she went on to describe how she explained the matter to children during religious education in elementary school: how the beauty of the world is proof for the existence of god and how the kids should beware of wily atheists who maliciously try to destroy their innocence and faith by using logical arguments. She compared the Christian children to little baby bunnies (literally) full of innocent curiosity and the atheists to creepy foxes (complete with the body language and tone of voice when she acted out their part). I felt as dirty as a pedophile during that sermon. And the fact that she's otherwise the kind of person who I can respect made it only worse. She was invited to the luncheon afterwards and I was sorely tempted to point out to her how offensive that sermon was. Take another word instead of "atheist" in there and it's pretty obvious how demagogic that was. Try Jew, for example. And I'm not saying/hinting or anything that she's antisemitic, it's just that everyone is sensitive in this area whereas everyone in my family seemed to think describing atheists in such terms was alright. They didn't seem to realize or care that as an atheist I was included in that imagery.
So, a very emotional matter for me. It makes me feel isolated from my family (from my sister and my mom), like my convictions are less worthy than theirs.

I really needed to write this all down to clear my head. I feel a bit better. But now I have to think about how I can talk this over with my sister because I know she doesn't want to hurt me. Same as I don't want to hurt her. And I don't want to just ignore it and have it stand between us, unspoken and festering.

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Jul. 26th, 2011 07:25 pm
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My uncle died Sunday night and my family is devastated.
My uncle was very active, doing renovations in his house, doing sports. He never suspected that he had a heart disease. 2 months ago, out of the blue, he had a severe cardiac infarct with three incidents of cardiac arrest in the following weeks. At last it looked as if he was doing better. Everyone was optimistic and then suddenly, another crisis and this time the doctors couldn't bring him back.
My uncle was a nice guy, a really nice guy, warm, family-oriented, out-going and funny. He was 62 years old.

Also I'm worried about my sister. She's 5-6 months pregnant and the last ultra-sound wasn't okay. Some problems with the little one's kidney. It could be that the little one was lying in a way that made observing his/her kidney difficult. Hence another ultra-sound today. My sister promised to inform me immediately with the results. Which she didn't do. I can't reach her right now and my dad just told me that she had talked to my mom and that there apparently wasn't any definite result yet. I find that very disturbing. EDIT: okay, little one is just fine!

:grins:

Oct. 8th, 2010 09:59 pm
tingel: ((default))
Although there are some things in the office that I don't like (my view of everything is rather more pessimistic after the experiences of the last two days) work can be really fun right now. I have a new office-mate (is that a word?) and she can be really funny! XD And we always find time to chat about TV series, food, co-workers, food, vacations, food etc (there's a theme going on here). Also after just a few weeks together we have different roles established: she's the nice and understanding one and I'm the one with the bit of a mean streak which she makes fun of(!) :grumbles:

Something else entirely: my nephew is starting to walk! A the moment he still clings to things to keep his balance. But he pulls himself up to his feet all by himself and then off he goes. My sis has her hands full keeping track of him. And he's only just 10 months old! :proud: I'll visit at the beginning of November and am already looking forward to it! I've seen the latest pictures and he's soooo cute! ^__^
tingel: (black n white)
Thursday was a holiday and yesterday I took a day off so this is a long weekend for me! Yay.... or not so much.
Because right on time I got a nasty headcold. I was so exhausted/dizzy yesterday that I actually lay down for a bit in the afternoon (I never do that usually) and promptly slept till 7 pm. Consequently I couldn't fall asleep / woke up regularly tonight. Wonderful. Now I feel even worse. And the cough hurts!

Time to cheer up! My sister is still pregnant. :big grin: It's kinda funny even. She started to get morning sickness and my mom went all "Yay, she's vomiting!" rofl
I think my sister might get second thoughts. She's a very independent woman. And now suddenly everyone treats her as if she's fragile. "No, you can't lift this" "No, you can't go shopping alone" "I'll do the garden work for you." I'm curious to see when she'll finally crack and yell she's pregnant, not sick. It's bound to happen ^_^

More cheering things: I got my copy of the Demon's Lexicon!!!!!!!! I'm still debating if I should start reading now or when I feel better. It might distract me, but on the other hand I'm in a crappy mood and can't really concentrate so well. I might waste the experience. But it's sitting there and looking gorgeous. I want to read it! Aaargh

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