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He, had a busy day today, but now, I'm done and I'm feeling pretty good about myself.

  • Cleaned the kitchen window

  • Washed off the kitchen shades in the shower

  • Did the dishes

  • Vacuumed

  • Did three loads of laundry

  • Cleaned up my desk

  • Bagged the old clothing I'm gonna give away

:proud: Right now, my mom could come in a surprise visit and I wouldn't be embarrassed. (She never says anything. Just raises her eyebrow. Oh, the eyebrow of doom!)
tingel: (Flocke)
AAAAaaand she arrived! This night at about 4 am.

My niece is fine and so is sis!!!
Last post was a false alarm. We've been waiting these past two weeks. Now the lady decided it was time to come. :-) And then, apparently, it all had to go very fast. Sis just made it to the hospital and spent about 20 minutes in the delivery ward.

The resulting technical data (as my dad called it):
58 cm - 4150 g
10 fingers and 10 toes attached. So everything is good!

:happy dance:


Oct. 31st, 2011 02:03 pm
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Little sis has gone into labor! My niece will arrive today or tomorrow!
And sis is cool as whatever about it. She's at home waiting for the contractions to get stronger before going to hospital. She even took the time time to proofread a paper I was preparing for a test next week... :amazed:
Hope the little one will come today. As sis said, being born on 31 October is great. For the rest of her life everyone's gonna be in party mood on her birthday and will have the next day off so they really can party! :)
I'm so happy! My sis is happy, her hubby is happy, my mom is happy, everyone is happy and excited. This kid will be greeted by smiles!
tingel: (sparkling eyes)
I'm fighting not to cry here.
My sister called, basically to ask how the day was and if I liked her birthday present (which I really did). Then she asked me if I would be my niece's godmother. (My niece will be born around the beginning of November). She knows I'm an atheist. I don't make a fuss about it but neither do I hide it. When she asked me to become my nephew's godmother two years ago I declined saying that I was an atheist and that it went against my convictions. And I didn't hold my nephew during baptism or made any vows to educate him in Christianity. My sister seems to have forgotten that and still considers me his godmother, meaning I would step in if anything should ever happen to her and her husband. In my eyes that's something completely different. If something were to happen I don't need a religious ceremony to take care of my family. They - she, her husband and the kid(s) - are my family! And also, that's not what that ceremony is about. The god-parenting part is about promising to raise the child in the ways of Christianity and nothing else.
When my sister asked me again today, I declined again. We exchanged some words. She really considers me my nephew's godmother and can't understand why I'm "suddenly" acting differently. I pointed out that I'm doing exactly the same as before. She feels that in refusing to be a godmother I'm rejecting her and her family. That's when she snapped that fine, she would ask someone else and she wouldn't beg. I said she misunderstood. I love her and the kid(s) and I would still take care of them if something happened. We stopped then, before it devolved into a screaming match and promised to talk again later this week.
I'm really upset about it. Even more than I can really understand. I think it's because my sister is a very important person in my life. Maybe even more important than I realize at times. Now she's upset with me, so I am upset, too. But a big part is probably also this: for her my being a godmother is a proof of my love for her and her children. It's as if the only reason I would refuse to do my part is that I don't love them or want to take responsibility. And in that she marginalizes my own convictions. She ignores the fact that being an atheist is as much part of my identity as being Christian is part of hers. And that hurts. It hurts deeper than I would have expected.
There's a bit more still. I did attend my nephew's baptism. And there was this nice, no-nonsense, down-to-earth minister who explained how wonderful it was to introduce new members to the church (okay) and how important it is to actively lead the children in their faith (also okay from a church point of view). Then she went on to describe how she explained the matter to children during religious education in elementary school: how the beauty of the world is proof for the existence of god and how the kids should beware of wily atheists who maliciously try to destroy their innocence and faith by using logical arguments. She compared the Christian children to little baby bunnies (literally) full of innocent curiosity and the atheists to creepy foxes (complete with the body language and tone of voice when she acted out their part). I felt as dirty as a pedophile during that sermon. And the fact that she's otherwise the kind of person who I can respect made it only worse. She was invited to the luncheon afterwards and I was sorely tempted to point out to her how offensive that sermon was. Take another word instead of "atheist" in there and it's pretty obvious how demagogic that was. Try Jew, for example. And I'm not saying/hinting or anything that she's antisemitic, it's just that everyone is sensitive in this area whereas everyone in my family seemed to think describing atheists in such terms was alright. They didn't seem to realize or care that as an atheist I was included in that imagery.
So, a very emotional matter for me. It makes me feel isolated from my family (from my sister and my mom), like my convictions are less worthy than theirs.

I really needed to write this all down to clear my head. I feel a bit better. But now I have to think about how I can talk this over with my sister because I know she doesn't want to hurt me. Same as I don't want to hurt her. And I don't want to just ignore it and have it stand between us, unspoken and festering.


Jul. 26th, 2011 07:25 pm
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My uncle died Sunday night and my family is devastated.
My uncle was very active, doing renovations in his house, doing sports. He never suspected that he had a heart disease. 2 months ago, out of the blue, he had a severe cardiac infarct with three incidents of cardiac arrest in the following weeks. At last it looked as if he was doing better. Everyone was optimistic and then suddenly, another crisis and this time the doctors couldn't bring him back.
My uncle was a nice guy, a really nice guy, warm, family-oriented, out-going and funny. He was 62 years old.

Also I'm worried about my sister. She's 5-6 months pregnant and the last ultra-sound wasn't okay. Some problems with the little one's kidney. It could be that the little one was lying in a way that made observing his/her kidney difficult. Hence another ultra-sound today. My sister promised to inform me immediately with the results. Which she didn't do. I can't reach her right now and my dad just told me that she had talked to my mom and that there apparently wasn't any definite result yet. I find that very disturbing. EDIT: okay, little one is just fine!
tingel: (Monkey Island - 3headed monkey)
I'm back from my parents'. It was fun, I didn't want to leave but I can't stay two nights with my guinea piggies waiting to be fed.
Had a barbecue yesterday. My first time this year. Great! After two bottles of beer yesterday I'm STILL feeling a little woozy today. Kinda embarrassing really. My excuse: I don't drink normally.
During the night we had a thunderstorm. It blew the power out. Not only in our house but in a wider area. All the street lights were out too. I had to go looking for candles and read a few pages by candlelight before I gave up and went to sleep. How medieval! ^_^;
I woke up again around 2 a.m. to a brightly lid room, power was back.
Today was all about eating. Our neighbour had invited us to breakfast. It was gigantic. And my mom had invited everyone to coffee and cake (cheesecake, philadelphia cake and something covered in chocolate cream) All delicious, but now I'm so stuffed I can't imagine eating anything in the next two days or so!
Our neighbours got a PC and use it mainly for gaming. Desktop games nothing exciting really. But they showed me this one game and I totally got sucked in. Spent the whole afternoon going from one level to the next. Never noticed the time. As revenge I introduced them to Monkey Island. *snigger* They'll never get a good night's sleep again in the next few weeks1
So yeah, it was a fun day. But I think I'll have an early night. Wooziness and all.

Everyone, have a nice Easter holiday too!
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My little sis just told me that she suspects / hopes / has a hunch that she might be pregnant. She'll wait till Friday next week before taking the test... Might still be a false alarm. Her period is a bit overdue and she's got this feeling...
Will I be an aunt this year? Time to start that saving plan I promised myself I would set up for the little one? I'm getting excited here!
Edit: It was a false alert. Hmpf

(other than that, I've been home all month on sick leave. Might start working again next week, but I'm not too sure yet. I don't know, really, if I'm actually better or if it only is my sense of duty compelling me to return. Damn!)


Jun. 10th, 2008 11:54 pm
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Working looong hours lately. Today too. But strangely enough, nothing seems to be able to quench my good mood today. On my way home I stopped for ice-cream and enjoyed the sunshine. All in all, really nice.

This Saturday there's a Japanese culture festival here in Düsseldorf. Looking forward to it and the fireworks!

Just talked to my mom. My sis's birthday is in 2 weeks. She'll be 30. Somehow it crept up on me. What a surprise! It's been only set for what... 30 years? :grins:
Anyway I got tickets to a comedian for her. Jürgen von der Lippe (famous German guy). I like him a lot. He'll be in Düsseldorf at the end of September. So my mom's going to get tickets for my birthday too. So my sis and I are getting the same present, only in different towns LOL

I translated chap. 28 of The Marriagestone Sunday night. It was so intense! The chapter is full of action and horror (dementors! grendlings! yay). And I always keep getting really sucked into the story while translating and I had the Doctor Who soundtrack running in the background and it just fit. It felt almost like a trance. Best of all I think the result is actually readable. On the downside, it took me till 3 a.m. to finish. And I had to get up at 7 for work. Guess I gave a good impression of the living dead yesterday. :snigger:
Anyway I told my mom about it. She knew about my projects. But she just now realised I was translating into German, in other words, she could read it, like online. She wanted a link. NO WAY! No way I'm showing my parents what I like in fandom! Like, no! I told her it's not safe for parents. LOL

I could imagine showing it to my sis. But then, her hubby has this thing about homosexuality. Ridicules it. And I'm already the odd one out, permantly single, fat, a loner... no need to add odd interests too.

I know it's one of the few things she doesn't like about him. Our great uncle was gay. He used to live with my grandparents and was always away for the weekend as long as I can remember. For my sis and me it was a mystery (when we were kids). We used to imagine he was some kind of mafia member or spy (yes, kids do come up with such things :laughs:) Some years ago he died very suddenly. We found his body in his room. He'd always talked of 'us' (without mentioning any names) when he talked about his weekends. So we knew there had to be someone missing him. My dad did some detective work and found an address. It turned out my great uncle had been living with a man for over 20 years. For all purposes they were married. And he never mentioned it. It's so sad. But he was from a different generation. He was a soldier during WWII. He could've been killed for it. You probably never forget something like that. And I guess he was afraid of my grandparents' reaction. And he was right. When they learned about it they forbade us to even mention it out of fear that the neighbours might overhear. As if they would have cared. When his partner came to visit my great uncles grave my grandmother didn't want to let him into the house! But she didn't reckon with my mom! They had quite a row. My mom served him coffee, took him to the graveside and didn't talk to my grandmother for days. Go, mom! Well, if nothing else that's a reason why my sis would never tolerate making ugly jokes about gays. She (and I too) adored our great uncle. He was just a cool guy and it still hurts that he felt he had to hide.

Okay, I realize I'm rambling on again. I'll just translate a bit more (not that late though) and turn in.
tingel: (Flocke)
Seems this month is out to get my family. First my dad had a heart attack (he's fine now), then my sister was almost run over by a car now my mom just called me to tell me that Flocke was ill last night.
My sister was crossing the street at a bus stop when a car headed her way, speeding and accelerating. The driver obviously didn't see her and she had to dive out of its way and sprained her ankle badly. If it had hit her she could have been seriously injured, at least... Still she was on sick-leave for a week because she couldn't walk.
Flocke started vomiting yesterday till she could only throw up bile anymore. When she started vomiting blood my mom panicked and rang the nearest vetinary in the middle of the night. Thank god for our neighbours. They were great and drove my mom there (dad's in rehab). The vet said it was some kind of infection. Flocke got antibiotics and pain killers and had to take some kind of drops every 15 minutes. This morning she behaved as if nothing had ever happened. *relieved*

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